Dare to ask

As many of you know spirituality or the experience of spirituality or your spiritual journey doesn’t have to end when you become a mother. I am working on a book titled “spiritual mothering” so I would know.
Spirituality changes, transforms.. when you become a mother. You gain a different perspective on your spiritual journey, on creating and on source and the energetic connection of your soul and those around you to, source.

Many moms almost gloat and brag about their martyr role. I know I sure have my moments when I get caught up in it but I never identify with it. I am a mom, but I am many things and mom is just one of them. If I were to identify with 1 word it would be creator. I am a creator of many things, portraits, a solid bond between myself and my children, pancakes and cookies, nice cups of tea, good conversations, books, ..  That’s a trap we simply have to rise above, identifying with the “martyr” role of motherhood, the “#momlife”. Especially during these challenging corona times where we’re all quarantined and where we often have no alone time when we are at home with the kids.

That’s when the title of this article came to me from source: “Dare To Ask”. I like it so much that I’m even considering adding another chapter to my book titled just that. And I have had my table of contents determined for months now. But “Dare To Ask” is something that many moms just refuse to do, out of pride, out of stubbornness, out of habit. But daring to ask for help is the ultimate act of self-love as a mother. It’s of the utmost importance to invest in yourself emotionally as much as you invest in others. As a mother, and as a person in general.

I’ve written an entire chapter in my book about it, I’m still working on it. There are lots of creative ways to find time alone with yourself and with spirit. To be present in the moment and grounded and calm. And if there is one thing that mothers are good at it’s being creative, we created small humans after all. So be creative. If possible find moments alone. And if that’s not possible, there are many creative ways to find moments of peace while being surrounded by other people.

When you wake up and you are lucky enough to have a partner at home with you, dare to ask for help. Dare to take a moment to sit in the grass and drink a coffee or a cup of tea. Dare to ask for alone time to recharge because not only are you hitting the reset button on yourself instead of overloading, you’re also teaching your children that time on their own is an essential part of life.